Ask for HELP… Your Life Depends On It
What holds you back from getting all the help you need and want?
Vulnerability is the life skill of being willing to be open and exposed.
We (especially men) often think being vulnerable means being weak. It’s just being human.
At one time or another, we are all vulnerable. Even though we use all kinds of tricks to cover them up, we all have a soft spot, blind spot, or “weak” spot. Men shield their vulnerability more than women do, by making sure we don’t expose our “soft” side.
Thankfully, that is changing. Men can be, and often are as compassionate and empathic as women. Intuitive, too.
I notice something about really strong people. They are willing to be vulnerable. They are willing to take a stand. They are willing to ask for help. Asking for help makes us vulnerable, for all sorts of reasons.
Asking for help can create a feeling (illusion) of powerlessness. That’s a place many of us prefer to avoid at all costs. When we are in need of help, we feel vulnerable.
We need to gain distance, so we reach out to others who are more detached and less emotional, people who don’t have the same vested stake in the outcome that we do. To see more of life, we need more than just our own point of view.
Let’s say we were sitting around a table and in the middle is a globe of the world. If I asked you how much of the earth is water, your answer is going to depend upon where you sit. If you’re looking at the middle of the Atlantic Ocean, you might see the world as 90% water. If you’re staring at China or Russia, you might swear the “world” is only 10% water.
Which is the “right” answer?
Neither, and BOTH.
It all depends on where you sit.
You’re view of the world is limited to what you see and the clarity with which you see it. Asking for help enlarges that circle of influence, intelligence, opportunity and poss-ability. Seeing more of it, and seeing it more clearly enables us to make better choices.
Asking for help is not a sign of weakness.
It’s a sign of strength and maturity.
Use this Life Skill for Business… Vulnerability.
Incorporate asking for help into your daily routine. Spend a minimum of 15 minutes each day asking for help, even if you don’t think you need it.
Say to someone every day,
“I value your input!”
“I would appreciate your perspective.”
“I could use your help!”
“I’d like your advice and point of view.”
“What do you think?”
Who can you approach today?
Ask for HELP like your life depends on it!
In today’s inter-dependent world, it does.
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