Losers No More!

(This is a bit of a rant I first published two years ago.)

I can’t stands it no more.

I’ve seen enough, read enough, heard enough and had enough of the “SUCCESS BS™” spewing forth on the subject of winners and “losers.”

A lot of this blather comes from the ranks of self-anointed experts who promote their brand of “SUCCESS BS” as if they have a secret pipeline to a higher power and all things possible.

My guess is whatever higher power you believe in would not approve of the pompous, arrogant and condescending way these people label HIS children.

God don’t make junk and she doesn’t brand her children, losers.

Labeling people as “losers” is demeaning and inhumane. Calling any human being a “loser” says little about the labeled, and a lot about the labeler. Look close and you’ll notice the people who wax on about winners and losers always put themselves on the side of the winners.

There’s a very old song that says, “Nobody knows the trouble I seen!”

Nobody knows what’s in another person’s heart, or what his life experience has been. Nobody has a corner on success. Nobody always wins. In the real world, not the rarified air many SUCCESS BS slingers breathe, the truth is:

EVERYONE LOSES SOMETIME!

These “winners” see everything in life as a win/lose game. They measure people against their own standards. If you measure up, you’re a winner. If you don’t, you’re a loser. It’s that simple, that black and white.

The rules of the winner / loser game are:

Winners win.
Losers whine.

Winners make decisions.
Losers make excuses.

Winners accomplish all they can accomplish.
Losers settle for less.

Winners perform their best all the time.
Losers accept mediocrity.

Winners do “whatever it takes.”
Losers stop at “whatever comes.”

Winners won’t be stopped by anything.
Losers are stopped by everything.

Winners use roadblocks as motivation to succeed.
Losers use obstacles as a reason to fail.

Winners want to be rich.
Losers settle for being comfortable.

I was in the front row when a best selling author spewed this “SUCCESS BS” in a public seminar:

“I asked big name guru, ‘What’s the difference between you and me?’” Big name guru said, “You only associate with millionaires. I hang around with billionaires. You’ll can’t become like a billionaire if you hang around with millionaires.”

Hand me a barf bag, please!

I admit it. I hang around with all kinds of people from all walks of life. I don’t have a minimum net worth requirement to associate with or befriend someone.

I don’t know any billionaires personally.

I did put a lucrative speaking career on hold for 10 years to stay at home and raise my son Adam. That choice probably cost me a few million dollars. For 10 years, I was not being “all I can be.”

Does putting parenting ahead of career make me a loser?

Don’t winners “sacrifice” family to the higher calling of their life purpose?

NO MORE SUCCESS B.S.™!

All my life, I have been curious about what makes people tick. The more you learn the more you realize how much you don’t know. All masters are humble students on a journey of discovery they know will never end.

I am suspicious of people who claim to have a corner on the way things are.

You can drown in all the SUCCESS BS™ being slung every day. Keep your “BS Meter” fixed on high.

Beware the “influence peddler” whose primary motive is to sell you his secret success formula.

That includes ME!

If I serve up stinky SUCCESS BS, I expect you to call me on my poop!

Complex questions don’t always have simple answers. Despite the claims, nobody has a secret sauce that guarantees success and wealth.

Success is a unique journey for each of us. It has less to do with reaching a destination, than it does enjoying the ride.

A person who claims absolute knowledge in a world with so little certainty and so much paradox is full of SUCCESS BS. More people have been harmed than helped, hurt than healed, by the SUCCESS BS movement.

Success is not life’s highest value.

LIFE’S HIGHEST VALUE IS LOVING YOURSELF and LOVING OTHERS!

Call me a cynic, but how healthy is an industry whose underlying message and guiding principle is,

“YOU’RE NOT ENOUGH YET!”

“If you want to be successful, you have to become more!”

This is not a prosperity principle.
This is not a spiritual mantra.

The opposite is true:

YOU ARE PERFECT!
YOU ARE THE ONE AND ONLY, PERFECT YOU!
THERE IS NOTHING YOU NEED TO BECOME!

You want to do better? Do better.
You want to go farther? Go farther.
You want to have more? Have more.

None of these alter or affect who you really are.
And contrary to SUCCESS BS…

NONE OF THESE WILL MAKE YOU HAPPY.

If you think doing better, going farther and having more will make you feel better or be happier, you are mistaken. If you have bought into the SUCCESS BS that says, “money is freedom” you are in for a rude awakening.

Money is a medium of exchange.
Money has NO spiritual value.

Freedom is a state of being.
Freedom IS a spiritual value.

Happiness is a state of being, not a state of doing, going or having.

You BE HAPPY, you can’t do, go or have happy.

After all, how much is enough? Can you ever do enough, go enough, have enough or become enough to be all you can be?

“More” is the Holy Grail of the SUCCESS BS game.

“Losers” are satisfied.
Winners are never satisfied.
That’s what makes winners, winners!

There is nothing bad or wrong about winning. I like winning. Winning is great, it’s fun, it’s exciting. Sometimes, it’s even better than losing.

But not always.

Some of life’s biggest breakthroughs come after breakdown.

Much of life’s best learning and wisdom come from setback and disappointment.

In other words, being a “loser!”

True success is unique to each of us.
Real success is an intrinsic experience.

Don’t buy the myth that if you succeed, you’re a winner and if you fail, you’re a loser.

THIS IS BARNYARD POOP!

The world would be a much better place if we didn’t value each other as winners and losers.

Every human being is unique, invaluable and irreplaceable.

If you’re surviving, making your way in the world, loving and serving people, you are winning the game of life.

Even if today, you are down on your luck or worse, you are down on yourself, know this:

YOU NEVER WERE AND NEVER WILL BE A “LOSER!”

*** YOU ARE A WINNER! ***

Don’t let anyone tell you any different.

Heed Eleanor Roosevelt’s advice:

“Nobody can make you feel inferior without your permission.”

Don’t let anyone define you, even so-called gurus and experts.

Don’t permit anyone to make you feel inferior.

Don’t give anyone permission to diminish you.
That includes YOU, too!

NEVER diminish who you are.
STOP any “loser” self-talk RIGHT NOW.

It’s not real.
You made it up.
LET IT GO!

Be wary of people who categorize others as losers.

PRESTIGE AND CELEBRITY DO NOT MAKE PEOPLE WINNERS!

POWER AND AUTHORITY DO NOT MAKE PEOPLE WINNERS!

MONEY AND SUCCESS (BS) DO NOT MAKE PEOPLE WINNERS!

Living, loving and serving others is winning the game.

The old game was a zero-sum game with a fixed pie.
To get more, you had to take a piece from someone else.

The NEW Game is an abundance game with enough for everyone.
To get more, you simply create more pie.

The old game was living materially in a spiritual world.

The NEW Game is living spiritually in a material world!

It seems we love the pressure of the clock, the decisiveness of the score, the “winner take all” sudden death nature of sporting events. It’s primal and will always be with us. Sport is a great place to express this part of us.

But life is a game to be enjoyed, not a blood sport where winning is the only acceptable outcome.

In life, you win some and you lose some.

How you play is more important than whether you win or lose.
Enjoying the game is what matters most.

Whatever the final score of today’s game is:

YOU’RE A WINNER!

It’s my honor to take the field with you.

Mitch, CEO (Chief Encouragement Officer™)
“Losers No More!”

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